2/3/11

I think I am depressed...buying something new didn't help, what now?


What is a colorful kate spade girl to do when shopping doesn't perk her up?  I have been down and kind of weepy for a few days now and can't seem to shake it.  I think it is the winter blues but usually I can "snap out of it".  I have tried all the tricks from the past like chocolate chip cookie dough, chips and dip, online shopping, offline shopping, reading romance novels, watching old movies, etc...  I keep thinking I am just one purchase away from being perky again.  What do you do to get out of the "dumps?"  I could use some advice because I am not used to being like this for more than a few hours.  I think the main reason is because I am old and fat and have accomplished nothing with my life.  I think I am jealous of all the cute young gals who are starting new magazines and having lots of partys, wearing cute kate spade clothes.  There is something to say for contentment.  I need go give myself another pep-talk...

xoxox,
Sandee

9 comments:

Meg said...

I've never commented on your blog before, but this post really hit me.

Just so you know, I'm 23, 25 pounds overweight, and cannot afford Kate Spade anything, and am working in an office...Sometimes it makes me really unhappy, but I've been learning to look at the positive, and it's really been working.

Just try thinking about one thing that makes you happy, about yourself, about your life. I'm sure there's something, and I hope that it makes you smile, even just a little bit.

Hey, if it would make you feel better, you could go buy Kate Spade and send it to me ;)


I hope your day perks up!

Rae said...

I've never posted either, but I felt compelled to comment.

On days (or weeks) when I am feeling down and all of the above you mentioned don't help any, I try to do something extra nice for my husband. It might be something silly like surprising him with a milkshake after work or something big like making his favorite tamales.

Seeing him so unexpectedly happy tends to lift my mood.

I hope things start looking up for you soon!

Royaltygirl said...

thanks for the sweet words! I do think doing something for someone else gets your mind off of your "troubles", thanks for the remind!
xoxox,
Sandee

NezumiRyuko said...

I'm sorry to hear you are feeling down.
I too have my fair share of varying bouts of depression.

Firstly, you are not old, certainly not fat, and definitely have accomplished much in your life. I only know what goes on the blog and there's obviously a lot more outside of that, but I do know at the forefront you have a lovely family. :D
Regarding the blog, I know I look forward to your posts everyday.

In addition to some things you mentioned (reading, movies, and shopping, of course), I like to cook to lift my spirits. Usually something very "home-y," but new (to me). It doesn't have to be earth-shattering or super complicated, but it helps to be different enough so it doesn't feel like just "more of the same." I like soups, as they are hot and calming. I made split pea with chorizo last week. I was feeling down and didn't want to do anything (could barely drag myself to the kitchen), but once the smell of the soup started filling the apartment I began to feel better. Eating it (and watching the Boyfriend enjoy it) was very satisfying.

Alternately, going to a new restaurant can also be uplifting (especially dressing up cute to go!).

Call up a friend or two, someone who's a good listener. Also, listen to him/her as well. Focusing outside yourself can help a lot. Plan a little outing (sooner rather than later).

I'm not sure if any of that helps at all (sorry it's a little scattered), but I can say that this too will pass. I know how you feel, though.

spryfly said...

You are CLEARLY not old nor fat, there are way too many cute photos of you here, but isn't it funny how what we see changes completely with our moods?!

I suggest some exercise to get all the blood flowing (not for the fat comment! You are not fat! But exercise does release a lot of brain chemicals, just a little might perk things up.

My favorite thing to do when I'm depressed is to do something nice and unexpected for someone else. Sometimes its helping an elderly woman with her groceries and the cart, and when I used to cross a toll bridge all the time, I would pay the toll for the person behind me, and then speed off! I would wickedly laugh and giggle over it for a solid 20 minutes, I have no idea why, but I'm in a good mood just thinking about it! How about going to your local grocery store or costco, buy a bouquet of cheap flowers, whatever works, like daisys or if roses haven't gone up yet, and then go to a drug store (where old people or sick people are trying to buy stuff, and just hand out the flowers. Or wherever there might be some people you can surprise. Or leave flowers on their cars for your friends, it will drive them nuts and you can act all surprised- 'what!?! Oh my, you have a secret admirer!' when they tell you, or write thank you notes to people, I dunno! This cheers me up just typing about it! :) Or go through the closet and donate a bunch of stuff, just let the 'giving' ideas roll. You'll feel awesome and powerful in NO time. :) -Kelly

Kristen said...

Sandee, I am sorry that you are feeling down. Anytime I feel the way you described, I have to go out somewhere with a friend to "escape my head". If I was in Houston, I'd get dressed up in my cutest Kate Spade-ish outfit & take you out to Chuy's to drink some Texas Martini's & swap silly stories so we could giggle til our sides hurt!! I am grateful for your blog & your youtube videos - your capsule videos are so awesome! What are some things you would like to do? Tomorrow is a new day!

Marcia said...

Sorry to hear you're feeling down : ( We all have those days. But....you are NOT FAT. We women are WAY too hard on ourselves, and for no good reason. You have GREAT style, a great home and lovely clothes! That's a win win situation right there. If I had a closet like yours, I'd take a peek in there and that would cheer me right up!!
Keep your head up! : )

the kate spade addict said...

oh babe, you HAVE accomplished much in your life!!!! look at your killer wardrobe! :p

and you have such a beautiful family and home. just know many out there would kill to be you and have what you have. =)

BIG HUGS!

kelbelle said...

You poor darling! This is always an icky time of year. The holidays are over and there's nothing fun on the horizon for a couple of months. I've learned not to compare my life to anyone else's, you never know what issues they have, no matter what it may look like on the outside. You have two beautiful children, a beautiful home, and a great love of life! I find that whenever I'm discontented with my life it really does help to picture my idea of my perfect life, then compare it to where I am. Then take steps, no matter how small at first, to make the real thing look like the picture. (((Big hugs))) You're definitely an inspiration to me to get out of my comfort zone and live colorfully!